Comments on: Just say no

By: Tim Vance

Tim Vance — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 17:14:54 +0000

I’ve found the most important thing about saying “No” is being clear that I’m saying “No” to the request, not to the person. Early in my ministry I would say “No” and could offend someone, making them think I wouldn’t help because I didn’t value them. I had to learn how to say “No” while still showing I value the person and would be willing to help at a later time.

By: Darlene

Darlene — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 22:01:21 +0000

I have found that one little two letter word absolutely liberating!

By: Lori Eilers

Lori Eilers — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 14:24:47 +0000

That is one area that I have to constantly work on. I’m better about “no” than I used to be but have had to train myself to say, “Let me think and pray about it first.”

By: briana

briana — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 12:44:40 +0000

people pleasers everywhere (and you know who you are) … can i get an amen?! preach it brother!

By: Jim Wideman

Jim Wideman — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 05:36:46 +0000

Good word! I started reading a wonderful book about this that my friend Mark Harper gave me today “Boundaries” When to say yes, when to say no to take control of your life. by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend. So far it’s been amazing.
bj

By: Alan Phillips

Alan Phillips — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 23:49:48 +0000

No is a powerful word and I definitely agree that people including and especially pastor’s need to tell people no. I used to say yes to everything and then all of a sudden I started saying no to everything. Now I have finally reached what I believe is a good balance. I try to say yes whenever I can, but their are times just like you Ryan that the answer must be no for right now, but it doesn’t mean it will be no forever.

By: Todd McKeever

Todd McKeever — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 21:35:17 +0000

My personality makes it easy to say “no” to things and I definitely see the value of saying “no” in order to say “yes” for the greater. But boy does it drive me nuts when God tells me “no” in order to say “yes” for the greater.