Monthly Archive for February, 2008

How to appeal to your pastor - part 4

Have the right motives.
Have the right time.
Have the right words.

Fourth, have the right response. Ask yourself these three questions.

1. No matter what my pastor gives me as an answer, will I have the right attitude?

2. Will I still be loyal?

3. Will I still be grateful?

This is going to be tough, especially when things don’t go your way. However, the way you answer these three questions will reveal a lot about your heart. Never forget that God is in control. Your job is to submit to your pastor (Prov. 21:1). If you can’t submit, it’s time for you to move on.

How to appeal to your pastor - part 3

First, have the right motives.

Second, have the right time.

Third, have the right words.

Carefully choose the words you will use when making the appeal to your pastor. Marketing strategists know that the selection of words is critical in getting consumers to buy a product or service. Nehemiah was a guy that knew the right words to use when making his appeal to the king to go back and rebuild the walls. Read Nehemiah 1 and 2 sometime and read his careful selection of words.

Here are four ways to make sure your words are right.

1. Give an accurate account of both sides. When making an appeal, it’s easy to get let your words get out of balance. Let your pastor see that you understand his position.

2. Be positive. Refuse to turn this into a contest or negative conversation. Remember your reputation is on the line so guard it (Prov. 22:1).

3. Be creative with alternatives. Bring them with you to the table.

4. Be prepared with what you are going to say. Your pastor is busy. Respect his busy schedule by thinking through the conversation in advance.

Tomorrow I’ll share with you my final tip for making an appeal to your pastor. See you then.

How to appeal to your pastor - part 2

The first thing you need to do when you want to make an appeal to your pastor is to have the right motives. Check your own heart first.

Second, have the right time.

Timing is important in cooking. The juicy hamburger on the grill is raw meat if cooked for too little time and a clump of charcoal if it is cooked too long.

Timing is important in medicine. If you catch a problem early you will be able to treat it more effectively.

Timing is important in finance. When you invest in a particular stock and when you sell the particular stock will make the difference between whether you make money or lose it.

Timing is important when making an appeal too. Here are three questions to ask yourself when considering if now is a good time to talk.

1. Is my pastor busy, bothered, or burdened? I have learned that Mondays and Thursdays are the worst times to talk to my pastor if I want his undivided attention. On Mondays he is tired from Sunday. On Thursdays, he is too busy getting ready for church on Thursday night.

2. Can my pastor freely concentrate on my appeal? Sometimes the office is the worst place to talk because of phone and email interruptions.

3. Are there any distractions? Here’s a thought. Making an appeal to your pastor after church on Sunday in the foyer is not smart. Agreed? Select a time and a place where distractions are minimal.

Timing is crucial. Esther knew this. In Esther 5:1-8 she made her appeal to the king and invited him and Haman to a banquet. She knew that timing was everything. So should we.

How to appeal to your pastor - part 1

One facet of serving as an assistant to your pastor is learning how to talk to him. There are times you need to make an appeal. Maybe he made a decision you don’t agree with. Maybe he asked you do you to do something you don’t want to do. Perhaps God has laid a burden on your heart and you want to talk to him. Here are four things to do when you need to appeal to your pastor.

First, have the right motives. Your motives need to be Scriptural and Godly whenever you try to get your pastor to move on something. In Deut. 9:26-28, Moses appealed to God when God wanted to wipe the Israelites out because of their sin. Moses appealed for Him to spare the people based on His reputation and promises.

Ask yourself these questions before making an appeal to your pastor:

1. Am I right with God?
2. Is my relationship with my pastor in good standing?
3. Do I have a genuine concern for the ministry?
4. Am I doing my best to see the whole picture, not just my ministry?
5. Am I basing my appeal on the goals and vision of my pastor?

Check back for the next thing to do when you want to make an appeal to your pastor as an assistant.

Eww, spiders

This morning, I was going to read a book before I started my day.  So I sit down and then tilt my head up.  I see the biggest spider I have ever seen in my entire life.  OK, maybe not that big.  Regardless, my heart skipped a beat when I saw it.  Then I realized it had a black ring on the top.  And as I looked at it more, I realized it was upside-down and not moving.  It was plastic.  I felt reeeealy stupid.  That “spider” temporarily caused me to be distracted from the task at hand.

Doesn’t Satan do the same thing to us sometimes?  We’re getting ready to do something great for God.  We’re stoked about it, and have prayed and prayed and prayed about it.  Then we look up, and see Satan’s “spider”.  It’s that great distraction that’s thrown in our way.  Maybe it’s a difficulty with the computer for Kids’ Church.  Maybe it’s an unexpected bill in your personal finances.  Maybe it’s the sinful fall of one of your personal mentors.  No matter how big or small the crisis, it’s all part of Satan’s mission to push you to sin.  To stop your program or event.

Strength from the Lord is vital to surviving these “spiders”.  Thankfully, you’ve been given a free pass to the throne of God.  Hebrews 4:16 (NASB) tells us, “Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”  God has given us an assurance that when Satan dangles those “spiders”, he’ll be right there to help us push past them and to carry out his will.  No matter how hard the time is that you’re facing, God has the ability to help you.  Take heart, and don’t worry.  That’s the way I see it.

What Starbucks has figured out and children’s ministries haven’t, part 3

This is part three of a three-part series.  Read parts one and two first.

What Starbucks has figured out #3: Follow them home.

Part of the Starbucks experience we mentioned last time is something very important: follow-up.  Starbucks doesn’t want your experience to end at the door, they want you to take it home with you.

Think about the last time you visited Starbucks.  You probably left with a refreshed, warm mood.  Just a pretty happy place to visit, right?  Their stores are designed to give you a feeling of being welcome.  Partners are trained to help make you feel like you belong.  When you have a bad experience, you get a card good for a free drink next time you visit.  When they make a decision that may not have been best, apologies abound and they insure that they make it right.  Good customers get recognized, and when you walk in they start making “the usual”.  All of it is done to give you an experience that you take home, and they follow up when they do something.

So what do you do for follow-up?  What do people have that “follows them home”?  When you do something wrong, do you apologize and fix it, or do you deny it and try to avoid it?  Follow-up is so extremely important.  Letting people know that you care and wanting to know if they have any questions after an event is important.  In it’s most basic form, it’s a postcard or letter saying, “We’ve been thinking about you.  Are you interested in any of these things we offer?”  You could go up to having a team of visitors who go to visit those who attend to check up on them.

I know, follow-up has been pounded into your head as a children’s ministry worker time after time after time.  That’s because it’s so important!  Following up on the experience someone had allows you to stay connected to them and share the love of God with them continually.

So as we wrap up our series on Starbucks, just remember these things: training, experience, and follow-up.  Make sure you do those three things, and you’ll be well on your way to improving your ministry.  They’re not everything though, so insure that you continue to improve in every area.  Make your ministry so remarkable, people can’t help but talk about it.  And while you’re at it, go grab a Grande Nonfat No Whip Peppermint Mocha. (Evan’s favorite!)

Coffee, cappuccino and your policies

Every so often I decide to swing by the gas station and buy a cup of coffee on my way to work. There are really two good choices for coffee between my house and the church. Gas station #1 sells coffee and cappuccino for the same price. Just show the cashier the size of your cup and pay. Gas station #2 sells coffee and cappuccino at two different price points (very close to each other). So you have to tell the cashier whether you have coffee or cappuccino, or in my case it gets confusing. Here’s why.

I normally get about 10% vanilla steamer or cappuccino and 90% coffee. At gas station #1 it’s not a problem. I pay my 99 cents and walk out the door. At gas station #2 I have given up telling the cashier that it’s only 10% cappuccino, I just pay the higher price.

Gas station #1 has made life easier on everyone. Pay one price, no questions. This leaves customers feeling happy and cashiers less frustrated trying to guess what’s inside the cup. Gas station #2 leaves people like me feeling like I’ve paid too much.

The point? Make processes easy for people. Have an outsider (it normally requires a new set of eyes) look over your policies and procedures and tell you how you can make them easier. Sometimes it’s something obvious that you haven’t seen. You’ll hit a win/win with everyone.

The power of a satisfied customer

Yesterday I got another convert. Not spiritually. I am talking about a MAC convert. I bought my pastor a MacBook this week and helped him set it up yesterday (which took less than 30 minutes). He’s brand new to the world of Apple.

What made him want to switch? I think it was hearing me go on and on for the last four years about how much I love mine. He knows that I don’t have to worry about viruses attacking my computer. I can make amazing stuff with a few simple clicks. My computer never crashes. It looks cool on my desk. On and on I could go.

Is there power in the testimony of a satisfied customer? I think so.

What Starbucks has figured out and children’s ministries haven’t, part 2

This is part 2 of a three-part series.  To read part one, click here.

What they’ve figured out #2: Experience is central.

Think about the last time you walked into a Starbucks.  The aroma of the coffee, the feel of the store, the laid-back atmosphere.  What you walked into was more than a restaurant: it was an experience.

From the beginning, that’s what Starbucks was about: the experience.  Everything they did focused on what it did to the experience.  Why the craziness over experience?  Because Howard Schultz, once again serving as CEO of Starbucks, feels that their stores should be the third place.  The third place is the place that isn’t home (first place) and isn’t work (second place) that you can go to hang out, enjoy a good coffee or two, and just unwind.  They desire that their stores feel accessible, fun, and a place where you could sit down and have a meeting.  When you walk in, Starbucks wants you to feel as comfortable there as you would at your own home.

But even as CEO Howard Schultz himself will admit, somewhere along the line the experience got lost in the business.  They moved to flavor-lock packaging, destroying the full coffee smell that they had when coffee arrived in large bins.  A tendency towards a “cookie cutter” store design led to what some called “sterility”.  And perhaps most famously, they introduced breakfast sandwiches.  Longtime patrons hated that the toasting sandwiched ruined the coffee smell so much, that one of Howard Schultz’ first acts when he returned as CEO a few months ago was to begin the demise of the breakfast sandwich at Starbucks.

Think about your ministry: do the parents at your church feel welcome and accepted when they bring their kids in, or do they feel guilty until proven innocent by a full cavity search and metal detector?  OK, maybe that’s a bit extreme, but you know what I mean.  Security is important, but you do have to strike a balance between security and welcoming both current and new parents to your ministry.

How do your kids feel in services?  Do they feel like they’re taking part, or like they’re watching a show?  Are they comfortable, feeling like they’re at home?  That experience is key to getting kids to feel like they fit in.  You know you’ve all had this kind of kid at one point or another: the first-timer who’s extremely attached to his parents.  Won’t let go of his mother’s leg.  Absolutely resists coming.  That sort of child is the child you should focus on that day.  Have a special worker sit right by him and comfort him and involve him.  Include him in games or prize giveaways.  The experience you create is critical.

Experience is hard to keep up.  It’ll take work.  It is so worth it, though.  Experiences that people have as children at church will continue to shape their image of the church into their adult and teen years.  You may think that that Sunday School teacher that teaches an OK class is fine to leave in place.  That’s dangerous thinking.  That class is, whether you or the child realize it or not, shaping their image of the church and will impact whether they or their future children will come to church in the future.  You can’t settle for mediocrity.  Ministry needs to be best.   Remarkable, you might say.  Go above and beyond.  Now that’s the way I see it.

8 simple steps to avoid burnout in ministry

1. Keep your walk with God a priority. Don’t just talk it, but make an action plan and ask someone to keep you accountable.

2. Make God’s plans your plans. Burnout often comes because we are trying to run with our agenda when God has another agenda in mind.

3. Stop people pleasing. There is freedom that comes when you realize that you were never called to keep everyone happy.

4. Learn to say no. Saying no is not selfish. When you say no, you’ll be able to spend quality time on the things you’ve already said yes to.

5. Get help. Delegate whenever you can delegate. Find experienced and capable people to help you.

6. Make the time to do nothing! We all need to take time to relax, refresh and replenish. Don’t keep pushing yourself.

7. Establish realistic expectations for what you can and cannot accomplish. I need 8 hours of sleep at night. I can’t stay up every night until midnight working, although I would love to. If I push for several days in a row and try to exist on 6 hours, I drag. I’ve learned that I’m most productive when I protect my 8 hours of sleep.

8. Laugh, smile and have fun! Ministry shouldn’t be a drag. Refuse to be serious all the time.