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Summer Club Giveaway

Same action brings same results… I’ve found out these past 53 years on the earth you can’t keep doing things the same way you have always done them and get different results. For the last 12+ years I have been teaching a monthly audio leadership lesson that I call the children’s ministers leadership club or theClub for short. Every workshop, book chapter, magazine article and blog post I do has come from a club lesson. TheClub has been a blessing to me and the lifeblood of income and support for JWM. They have also blessed a lot of leaders. In January I made the Young Guns Program available to CM Leaders under 30 so they could get theClub lessons free. I’ve had a great response. But I feel led to do something crazy over the next 3 months I’m going to give my June, July, and August club lessons away free to anyone of any age who signs up for my newsletter on jimwideman.com. Call me crazy, call me generous, call me a nice middle age gentleman who looks a little like the guy on the chicken bucket. Hurry and sign up before June 15th so you won’t miss a single lesson. I’m excited to see the growth that will happen when you dare to expand how you think about leadership.

Now…”that’s the way I see it!”

Being A Full-Time Leader On Part-Time Pay- 2

Before I was on staff full-time, I thought, If only I were full-time, I could devote all my time to young people, but that was far from true at my first full-time position. Yes, I got to work with young people, but I also got to work with old people. I was put in charge of the shut-in visitation. I got to visit the hospitals and minister to all ages. I got to minister to the carpet and on many occasions function in the ministry of maintenance! I got to cut the grass, clean the windows, clean out the storage buildings, mop up stopped-up toilets and drains, serve lunch to the kids at the daycare, and lock and unlock the buildings. When I added all those duties to what I wanted and needed to do to minister to young people, I found myself saying the same thing as when I worked another job “I don’t have enough time to spend in ministry to young people!”

Many youth and children’s workers who work another job have more time to spend in actual children’s or youth ministry than those who hold full-time, salaried positions on the church staff.

Acts 18:1-3 tells us that even Paul the great apostle, missionary, and writer of most of the New Testament had to work a trade to make a living. He was a tentmaker. This was not a setback or a hindrance to this great man of God, but something He was proud of and glad he could do so that he was not a hardship on anyone. Having to make tents sure didn’t seem to slow Paul down in the work he did for God.

When I was a senior in Bible college, my pastor approached me about helping out at the church. He knew that my major was in Christian Education and that in a few months I would have a degree. The church needed help in this area. They were in the midst of a building program and were going to change their departmental approach to Sunday School (nine classes for toddlers, nursery, and adults) to a graded program which would include a total of 22 classes So I found myself with three months to design classrooms, find teachers and helpers for 12 new classes, as well as start a children’s church while I was finishing up a degree, working a job, and playing in a traveling Christian band.

My pastor didn’t promise a position. He didn’t promise a salary.He told me this “I’m going to give you a title and turn you loose. If you make yourself so valuable that lore can’t live without you, then I guess late can’t live without you.” That’s all I needed. I didn’t realize that he was acting on a spiritual principle that a man’s gift will make room for him. As you’re faithful where you are and develop and use your gift, you can expect promotion. God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. If you are faithful in the small things, you Sill be made a ruler over much. It’s not your title or position that gets the job done, it’s your faithfulness and using the gifts within you diligently that really count.

The only nay you can keep all the hats you must wear balanced when you are juggling a career and the ministry is to make sure your priorities are in order and keep them that way.

Before you can do something you must be something. Godly character comes from a personal, daily walk with God. You can’t really knower someone unless you spend time with them. You can never know God unless you are spending time with Him. No matter how busy you find yourself, you must put the Lord first.

Over the years, I’ve noticed that people in ministry are a lot like people who have a checking account. There are those who make a deposit first and then write checks. Then there are the other folks who write checks and run to the bank to make a deposit to cover the checks they’ve just written. It’s the same way in ministry. We must give out from what we have first deposited. We must get in the habit of ministering out of our overflow.

8 simple steps to avoid burnout in ministry

1. Keep your walk with God a priority. Don’t just talk it, but make an action plan and ask someone to keep you accountable.

2. Make God’s plans your plans. Burnout often comes because we are trying to run with our agenda when God has another agenda in mind.

3. Stop people pleasing. There is freedom that comes when you realize that you were never called to keep everyone happy.

4. Learn to say no. Saying no is not selfish. When you say no, you’ll be able to spend quality time on the things you’ve already said yes to.

5. Get help. Delegate whenever you can delegate. Find experienced and capable people to help you.

6. Make the time to do nothing! We all need to take time to relax, refresh and replenish. Don’t keep pushing yourself.

7. Establish realistic expectations for what you can and cannot accomplish. I need 8 hours of sleep at night. I can’t stay up every night until midnight working, although I would love to. If I push for several days in a row and try to exist on 6 hours, I drag. I’ve learned that I’m most productive when I protect my 8 hours of sleep.

8. Laugh, smile and have fun! Ministry shouldn’t be a drag. Refuse to be serious all the time.

Why do CP’s burn out? Part 2

As I mentioned in my last post, the number one reason why we burn out is because there are needs in our lives that aren’t being met.

The second reason why we burnout is because we have wrong philosophies about success in the ministry. There are four models of success that will set you up for burnout.

#1: The executive model measures success by the size of the children’s ministry, the complexity of the organizational structure, the size of the staff and budget.

#2: The Donald Trump Apprentice model measures success by the number of sales the children’s pastor makes. Let’s get practical. The number of kids in weekend worship, baptisms, new classes, new volunteers, etc.

#3: The president of the corporation model measures success by how effectively he can keep the stockholders happy. This children’s pastor runs in circles trying to keep peace and make sure everyone is happy.

#4: The crowded calendar model measures success by a full calendar and tons of activities.

So, what proactive steps can you take to avoid burnout as a children’s pastor? Check back tomorrow and I’ll tell you the way I see it.

Why do CP’s burn out? Part 1

There are several reasons why children’s pastors burn out I suppose. I’ve been a CP now for 10 years. I’ve had several people over the years come to me and say, “Ryan, I need a break, I’m burnout.” I just got an email last week from a children’s pastor in Texas who feel like she is at the end of her ropes. She told me that she’s burning out. If you’re feeling burnout, there are two reasons why.

First, there is a need in your life that is not being met. Few people in the Bible every burn out. There were several that burnt up, but very few that experienced burnout! Elijah probably came the closest. His problem wasn’t burnout. His problem was that he thought he was all alone. Jezebel was on his tail and he thought he was the only person left serving God. As soon as he found out that he wasn’t alone, he marched on.

If you experiencing burnout, examine your heart and ask, “What need do I have that is not being met?” Is it a friend? A closer walk with the Lord? A conference? A vacation?

Write this down and seal it in an envelope: Burnout means there is need in my life that is not being met.

The next time a volunteer tells you that they need to take some time off because they are burning out, go deeper and try to help them see that there is a need in their life that needs attention. Their problem is not the class or the kids.

There’s one other reason why children’s pastors burn out. Check back and I’ll tell you what it is. This is the way I see it.

Warning signs that you are burning out

Here are six warning signs that you are burning out in your children’s ministry.

1. Your companions in the ministry become competitors.

2. You live with a “I must succeed” mentality instead of “I must be faithful” mentality.

3. You experience physical fatigue. This creates a lack of enthusiasm and energy.

4. Teaching and programming responsibilities in your ministry become a drudgery.

5. Your sense of purpose in ministry is lost.

6. You become a negative person. Others begin to wonder what’s going on in your life.

Check back and I’ll share the number one reason children’s pastors burn out and what do about it.

K! feedback

It’s been such a blessing to hear from you every day about K! Magazine. Our staff loves to read your emails and notes of encouragement. Here are a few we have received the past several days:

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Jim on Networking

There is not a day I live on planet earth that I don’t network. I have been amazed at the doors that open everyday if you are looking for them. I joined Facebook the other day. It has been amazing the “young” Children’s Pastor’s I been able to connect with by taking advantage of a free tool. (If you are on facebook, please invite me to be your friend also sign up to talk about leadership on my group “theClub”.) Another wonderful book to read if you are serious about growing your sphere of influence with others is the book “Never Eat Alone.”. This book is the best I’ve ever read on the power of networking. Make a people to connect to list and call or email them with 1 short question. (Depending on your relationship.) I am amazed at the people that I give my cell phone number to that doesn’t take advantage of that relationship. If I have some one’s cell phone I try to call them at least once a year to stay connected. It’s Wednesday and just off the top of my head I’ve talked to over 35 Children’s Pastors by phone and email to learn something. I guess what I’m wanting you to do is stop and thinK about the relationships you are taking for granted that God has presented you to grow and learn from. He’s the one that created the whole iron sharpening iron thing not the leadership, and personal growth coaches.
That’s the way I see it.

Fifteen years and time to change

Brother Jim’s blog post this morning is a good challenge for all of us. Jim and I talked about this very thing on the phone yesterday: what would we do different if we had the last fifteen years to do over again?

My mind goes to King Hezekiah in the Old Testament. If you remember, he was a great king who made great choices. Then one day he got sick - very sick. He was told to get his affairs in order because he was going to die. Then he prayed to God, asking for mercy. God healed him and told him he would have 15 more years. (He’s the only person that ever knew when he was going to die!) He knew he had 15 years to change things.

We don’t know how much time we have to make necessary changes. We do know, though, that if we don”t change we’ll grow stale and ineffective. Every fall I change the filter on my furnace at home. Could I skip a year and forget about changing that $20 filter? Yes. Would the furnace still work? Yes. But it wouldn’t be efficient.

What would you change about the last 15 years of your ministry? What would you change if you knew you had 15 more years ahead of you? Unfortunately, God doesn’t promise us 15 more years. That’s why God says to “make the most of your time” right now. (Ephesians 5:16)

P.S. What Hezekiah did with those last fifteen years is one of the saddest stories in the Bible. He wasted them. He made bad choice after bad choice, ultimately leading to the Babylonian captivity. Read 2 Kings 20 to see it for yourself. Don’t waste your “fifteen years”. Make the changes you need to be efficient today.

It comes down to you…

“When everything’s said and done there’s usually more said than done…..”

I had an interesting thought that I wrote about on my other blog.

We read, we listen, we attend workshop after workshop but somewhere we have to do more than get coaching we have to do what the coach says. If you want to improve in an area you have to apply what your learning.

Why do we run to the vendor area and look for the children’s ministry easy button? It’s not there. Tools can help, I love them but if you want to improve in an area you have to apply what your learning.

Why do we think if we keep doing the same old things we’ll get different results. Plain and simple - if you want different results it calls for different actions. You need to apply the Nike principle and “just do it!”