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Summer Club Giveaway

Same action brings same results… I’ve found out these past 53 years on the earth you can’t keep doing things the same way you have always done them and get different results. For the last 12+ years I have been teaching a monthly audio leadership lesson that I call the children’s ministers leadership club or theClub for short. Every workshop, book chapter, magazine article and blog post I do has come from a club lesson. TheClub has been a blessing to me and the lifeblood of income and support for JWM. They have also blessed a lot of leaders. In January I made the Young Guns Program available to CM Leaders under 30 so they could get theClub lessons free. I’ve had a great response. But I feel led to do something crazy over the next 3 months I’m going to give my June, July, and August club lessons away free to anyone of any age who signs up for my newsletter on jimwideman.com. Call me crazy, call me generous, call me a nice middle age gentleman who looks a little like the guy on the chicken bucket. Hurry and sign up before June 15th so you won’t miss a single lesson. I’m excited to see the growth that will happen when you dare to expand how you think about leadership.

Now…”that’s the way I see it!”

Finding your happy place

You. You know who you are. The person who sits in coach class and puts your seat allllllll the way back. Hence, the person behind you sits cramped and uncomfortable while you lay in comfort. Yep, you’re a layer-backer.

No one likes the person who puts their seat back like that. Unfortunately, I spent three hours on a plane from Dallas to San Diego this week with a person like that in front of me. That person was more concerned with his comfort than the comfort of those around him.

If, in all your days of reading this blog you haven’t noticed that I like to use random things to make ministry analogies, this is going to be one of those posts. So what does it have to do with children’s ministry? Simple. Many times we, as humans, choose to ignore the comfort of others in favor of what makes us feel better. We come up with this “cool” idea that we are totally sold out to, but our volunteers aren’t. We just insist on pushing through with it, because we’re convinced it’s what we need to do. In the process, we totally alienate all of those around us and end up trying to run our ministries all by ourselves.

Sometimes you just need to take a step back. Let go of your emotional attachment to something and simply look at it through the eyes of another person. There may be this sudden realization that what you are convinced is good, is not really that good.

That’s not to say that you should ignore God’s will for the favor of man. That’s also a dangerous place to be. If you are sure, beyond a shadow of a doubt that what you are doing is right, do it. God will help you with that.

Let people know you really care about what they have to say. Accept input from others. It’ll really help for you to communicate with those you serve and that help you to serve.

3 things

My cousin Carol Ann sent me a forward email the other day that I thought was cool. It was entitled “Three Things.” It said “Three things in life that, once gone, never come back…
1. Time
2. Words
3. Opportunity
To me we might not get them back but we can do something to make adjustments and manage time better, say and do right things, take our words and thoughts captive to the Word of God, and make the most of God given opportunity. The key is evaluation. This new year put a repeating to do note in your calendar to evaluate all 3 and make the need changes tomorrow. “Tomorrow is a great day to fix the things you have evaluated today!”
That’s the way I see it!
bj

Jim on Networking

There is not a day I live on planet earth that I don’t network. I have been amazed at the doors that open everyday if you are looking for them. I joined Facebook the other day. It has been amazing the “young” Children’s Pastor’s I been able to connect with by taking advantage of a free tool. (If you are on facebook, please invite me to be your friend also sign up to talk about leadership on my group “theClub”.) Another wonderful book to read if you are serious about growing your sphere of influence with others is the book “Never Eat Alone.”. This book is the best I’ve ever read on the power of networking. Make a people to connect to list and call or email them with 1 short question. (Depending on your relationship.) I am amazed at the people that I give my cell phone number to that doesn’t take advantage of that relationship. If I have some one’s cell phone I try to call them at least once a year to stay connected. It’s Wednesday and just off the top of my head I’ve talked to over 35 Children’s Pastors by phone and email to learn something. I guess what I’m wanting you to do is stop and thinK about the relationships you are taking for granted that God has presented you to grow and learn from. He’s the one that created the whole iron sharpening iron thing not the leadership, and personal growth coaches.
That’s the way I see it.

Practice makes perfect….

I attended a seninar the other day and was asked by the instructor to write my name on a piece of paper. Then she told me to change hands and make my signiture idenical with the oposite hand I write with all the time. (No one in the class was able to do thi by the way.) Then she made a wonderful point. She said “How hard would you work to master this task if I told you I’d give you a million dollars if you could do this?” Everyone saw her point. We work on things that we value and desire? What skills do you need to develop in your ministry. What changes do you need to make in yourself to be more effective. You might say “give me $1,000,000.00 and I’ll change it.” Being obedient to Christ, doing whatever we do unto him, and serving children and families are things that you can’t put a price on because they are priceless. So, what do you need to work on?

When your ministry machine malfunctions.

A small factory had to cease operations when a vital piece of machinery broke down. The firm’s own mechanics couldn’t get a thing working again so an outside expert was called in. He looked the situation over for a couple of minutes and then took a hammer and tapped the machine in a certain spot and it started running beautifully. When he submitted a bill for $100.00 the plant owner figuratively hit the ceiling and demanded an itemized bill, which subsequently was forthcoming as follows: $1.00 for hitting machine; $99.00 for knowing where to hit.

Have you learned that God uses His Word to “hit” us where we need fixing? Is something not working right this week in your life? Is the ministry machine that you are trying to manage malfunctioning? Spend some time in God’s Word and let him get things fixed.

What bugs me about Little League

I never liked Little League when I was a kid. Coaches Pitch was fun. Little League was dreadful. It wasn’t my coach. It wasn’t my team. It wasn’t even the t-shirt. It was stepping up to bat.

Those of you who know me know that I am not athletic. It’s always been that way. I was always the kid that got put in left field. My problem with Little League was that I was afraid of the ball. That ball seemed to fly 100 MPH and it always seemed to come right at me. Because I was afraid of the ball I would step back from the plate. Because I stepped back from the plate I never hit the ball. That is why I gave up my Little League career in 4th grade.

One thing I have noticed about the kids in the community where I live is that they LOVE Little League. I see it every day during the summer because the baseball fields are adjacent to our church property. People practically idolize it. This is what bugs me about Little League. Red flags are shooting up all over the place and I feel obligated as a shepherd to do something about it.

Each summer when baseball starts it becomes #1 to so many of the families in my church. Parents let their kids miss AWANA, camp, and Vacation Bible School. Why? Because God forbid that Junior miss a practice or a game. Continue reading ‘What bugs me about Little League’

The Making of a Great Ministry Team Member

Calling and Community Matrix

The making of a great ministry team leader revolves around Call and Community. So where do you fit on the Matrix? Are you a Prophet, an Employee, a Clique? Click below to read more about what each box means.

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Tax collectors and sinners

In the Bible, Jesus was notorious for hanging out with “the wrong crowd”. He could commonly be seen with the drunks,  loose women, and sick that no one else would be seen with. Quite often he was criticized for this. Here’s some examples:

Mark 2:15-17 (ESV): “And as he reclined at table in his house, many tax collectors and sinners were reclining with Jesus and his disciples, for there were many who followed him. And the scribes of the Pharisees, when they saw that he was eating with sinners and tax collectors, said to his disciples, ‘Why does he eat with tax collectors and sinners?’ And when Jesus heard it, he said to them, ‘Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I came not to call the righteous, but sinners.’”

Luke 4:36-47 (ESV): “One of the Pharisees asked him to eat with him, and he went into the Pharisee’s house and took his place at the table. And behold, a woman of the city, who was a sinner, when she learned that he was reclining at table in the Pharisee’s house, brought an alabaster flask of ointment, and standing behind him at his feet, weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears and wiped them with the hair of her head and kissed his feet and anointed them with the ointment. Now when the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, ‘If this man were a prophet, he would have known who and what sort of woman this is who is touching him, for she is a sinner.’ And Jesus answering said to him, ‘Simon, I have something to say to you.’ And he answered, ‘Say it, Teacher.’
‘A certain moneylender had two debtors. One owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. When they could not pay, he cancelled the debt of both. Now which of them will love him more?’ Simon answered, ‘The one, I suppose, for whom he cancelled the larger debt.’ And he said to him, ‘You have judged rightly.’ Then turning toward the woman he said to Simon, ‘Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven–for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.’”

Seems not much has changed since Bible times. Two types of people no one likes: tax collectors and sinners. But that’s not my point.
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From a palace in Persia

Last week my wife and I watched “A Night with the King.” Since I was a child, I have always loved the story of Queen Esther. What an amazing adventure. Young Hadassah, an orphan Jewess, becomes a queen with amazing power.

Most of us know the end of the story. Esther was placed in a leadership role for “such a time as this.” She was God’s tool to save the Jewish people from extermination. In the book, All the Women of the Bible, Edith Deen highlights the leadership strategies that Esther modeled. They are excellent strategies for anyone who leads people.

1. She gained favor with the people.
2. She used sound judgment.
3. She always thought of others first.
4. She offered to sacrifice her position and even her life to save others.
5. She was dedicated and loyal.
6. She exhibited virtuous character.
7. She was fearless.
8. She was prudent.

Esther’s life is a pattern of leadership we can each follow. Is there something in your church that has been bugging you? Is there a volunteer or staff member that has been pushing your button? Is there a mountain you can’t seem to climb? Perhaps one of the characteristics above could help resolve that situation.

Esther changed the world. Which of her leadership strategies will change yours today?