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The One Thing

I went into Starbucks this morning to get a Grande Iced Coffee.  While I was waiting, I was looking at the wall art and noticed a theme: the one thing.  It’s repeated over and over all over the walls.

At Starbucks, their one thing is obvious.  It’s coffee.  Yes, they do pastries, tea, and other things too, but coffee is who they are.  It’s what they excel at.

Each of us need to have our one thing.  The thing we’re great at, our passion, our way of life.  For me, my personal one thing is passionately sharing with children not only what Christians believe, but why we believe it.   Our church’s children’s ministry’s one thing is raising kids to be their best physically, mentally, and spiritually.  KidzMatter’s one thing is to partner with churches to help them to make an eternal impact in the lives of kids.

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I’ve been busy

Busy is one of those words that can mean different things at different times. There has been times when I thought I was busy then later I thought “What was I thinking? I wasn’t busy then, I’m busy now.” In a few months I end up eatting my words because it just got busier. Why does busy change?
1. Your time management skills either need to improve or you are not practicing what you know about time management.
2. You’re not delegating to your team.
3. You’re having a hard time saying no.
4. “Your hummingbird butt overrode your alligator mouth.” Which means, “You bit off more than you can chew,” which means all of the above need work.

Whose Ministry Is It Anyway?

Have you read the parable of the talents lately? It’s found in Matthew 25:14-30. My pastor preached on this parable Sunday night. Verse 14 says “it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his property to them.”

Did you know that everything you have belongs to the master? It has been “entrusted” to you for a short while. Your family, your house, your car, even your ministry. It all belongs to Him.

Why don’t you pause right now and think about your ministry. Who’s running the show? Who’s calling the shots? Who do you work for? The answer to these questions is JESUS!

If you read the parable of the talents, you will discover that the master was pleased with the servants who were good stewards with this possessions. Remember today that your ministry is not your own, it is the Lord’s. He has simply asked you to manage it and grow it for Him. I don’t know about you, but that sure takes a load off my back!

What my service manager has that I don’t

Last Saturday I took my car for a scheduled service and tune-up. I was reminded by the service manager at the dealership that it was time to come and bring the car. When I arrived, he pulled the service history up on his computer. He was immediately brought to speed on the history of the car and what needed work.

A few days later I had lunch with a children’s pastor in my area. He asked me if I kept spiritual history files on the kids in my ministry. It’s something he’d be thinking about doing. Gulp. I answered with a no.

A spiritual history file - what a great idea! If the service manager at the car dealership knows the history of my car shouldn’t I know the SPIRITUAL history of the kids in my church?

How well do you know the kids in your ministry? I’m not talking about their names or their favorite candy. I’m talking about their walk with the Lord. Have they been saved? What about baptized? Are they involved in Sunday School or small groups? Are they making progress in their faith?

If you keep spiritual history files on the kids in your church, I’d love to hear how you do it. Post a comment and tell us your system and how it is helping your ministry.

Summer Club Giveaway

Same action brings same results… I’ve found out these past 53 years on the earth you can’t keep doing things the same way you have always done them and get different results. For the last 12+ years I have been teaching a monthly audio leadership lesson that I call the children’s ministers leadership club or theClub for short. Every workshop, book chapter, magazine article and blog post I do has come from a club lesson. TheClub has been a blessing to me and the lifeblood of income and support for JWM. They have also blessed a lot of leaders. In January I made the Young Guns Program available to CM Leaders under 30 so they could get theClub lessons free. I’ve had a great response. But I feel led to do something crazy over the next 3 months I’m going to give my June, July, and August club lessons away free to anyone of any age who signs up for my newsletter on jimwideman.com. Call me crazy, call me generous, call me a nice middle age gentleman who looks a little like the guy on the chicken bucket. Hurry and sign up before June 15th so you won’t miss a single lesson. I’m excited to see the growth that will happen when you dare to expand how you think about leadership.

Now…”that’s the way I see it!”

Think about your call

In First Timothy, Paul helped young Timothy reach his potential and fulfill all that God planned for his life and ministry. In chapter four, he gave some specific instructions on how to be a faithful minister and how to fulfill his call. In verse 15, Paul admonished Timothy to “meditate on these things”. Paul wanted Timothy to stop and think about his call.

When’s the last time you paused to meditate on your call? I’m talking about thinking intently about what God has placed before you.

Let’s take time to think together. If God has called you to children’s ministry, the following is true:

1. You have been given the opportunity to minister to the most fertile of hearts - boys and girls. Statistics estimate that 85% of salvation decisions are made as a child.

2. You have the opportunity to lead the largest volunteer force in your church. Children’s ministry requires more volunteers than any other ministry in the church.

3. You have the opportunity to help mom and dad raise champions for Jesus Christ. Remember, mom and dad have a lot more influence in the life of a kid than you ever will. (Click here to see a great book on the subject.)

4. You are going to be on Satan’s radar. If 85% of Christians get saved before their 14th birthday, don’t be surprised if Satan tries to get you to quit. If a person’s world view is established by the preteen years, don’t be dumfounded when the enemy makes you feel lonely and discouraged.

5. You have the opportunity to do today what many wish they could have done in the past. D.L. Moody was responsible for leading thousands of people to Christ, starting a Bible Institute that has sent thousands of missionaries around the world, and on I could go. Yet, at the end of his life he said that if he could relive his life, he would “devote it entirely to reaching children for God.”

Take some time to do what Timothy did. Stop and think about your call.

Imagine a world without computers

Last week I took my wife on an anniversary getaway to Clifty Falls State Park in southern Indiana. There is really nice Inn at the park where we had a beautiful view of the Ohio River. We enjoyed hiking (though neither of us are anything near avid hikers) and spending time in historic Madison. We were able to spend some good quality time together.

Before the trip, I decided to leave some things behind. This included my laptop. How could I survive three days with no email, no blog surfing, and none of my regular updates to the KidzMatter website? The answer is: just fine! Amazingly the world went on. Our website didn’t crash. My email was waiting on me when I got home. All was well.

May this short blog post be a reminder that life can move on just fine when you decide to spend time on the most important things in life - I’m thinking about your spouse and kids. A friend of mine says that you can always get another ministry but you can’t get another family. Those are some wise words, huh?

Imagine a world without computers. Maybe it’s time to stop imagining and make it happen for a few days. I’m glad I did.

Just 15 minutes a day

Did you know that you will spend an average of 5 years of your life waiting in line? 6 of those months will be at stop lights! That’s not all. You’ll spend an average of 8 months opening junk mail, one year looking for things you misplaced, two years trying to call people back on the phone, four years cleaning the house, and six years eating. (Source: Priority Management Pittsburgh, Inc.)

The point? I don’t think we realize how much time we waste every day. It’s time to stop and ask, “What do I WANT to do with my time?” If we aren’t intentional with our time, it will waste away.

Here’s a good reminder: Everyone has the same amount of time in a day. True, some people live longer lives, but we each have 24-hour days. Have you noticed that the older you get the faster time goes? Boy I have. It seems to zip by. Since time keeps zipping by faster and faster, I need to spend my time doing what I WANT to do - with intent.

Edward Griggs said, “Fifteen minutes a day devoted to one definite study will make one a master in a dozen years.” Here’s the challenge. Let’s start with 15 minutes a day and intentionally do what we WANT to do. Pick something that will make you a better Christian, a better children’s pastor, a better parent, etc. Start now!

Say yes to no

Good reasons to say no
1. There simply aren’t enough hours in a day to work on it, even if I get to work early and stay late.
Just say no!
2. You are booked
Just say no!
3. My other work will suffer if I take on this assignment.
Just say no!
4. I don’t have the necessary skills to complete this project and I will not be able to attain them in
time.
Just say no!

Ok it’s your turn again. Know any reasons to say yes to no?
jw

Say no to no…

Bad reasons to say no
1. The project looks too difficult. Don’t say no to an opportunity to grow and learn.
2. It isn’t part of my job description. Never let these words come out of your mouth
3. I’m in the middle of planning my wedding and can’t focus on anything
right now. What? This was told to me by a leader once, life never stops, learn to balance personal stuff and your ministry. There will always be something going on at the same time as something you need to do for ministry. Both life and church must go on.

How about you? Know any bad reasons to say no?
jw